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Parents need to facilitate self learning in children -
Micromanaging your child simply means to interfere in every small things he is doing or ought to do.
Many parents in the enthusiasm of showing love do not allow the child to the next door shops too; do not allow to play a sport - what if he falls hurts himself; interrupt a conversation between their son and a third person with fear of their son being hurt verbally. These types of parents closely watch their children like a hawk.
Ultimately, these children growing under such circumstances might do well in academics, but would rather fail miserably in life with the lack of inter-personal, decision making and building rapport skills with teachers and others.
Such over protection will lead to live within oneself - not being outspoken; depression; inability to communicate and build relationships in their college. Next, these children also lack confidence and they are not matured like some their classmates.
These parents see their tendency to hover and help at every step as love and protection. Sometimes this goes little beyond even to complete their child's assignments and homework assignments, finally pampering them to the ultimate.
Technology has armed them with the tools to constantly monitor their children's progress and behavior by E-mail and text message, even GPS.
And the burden of tuition in a struggling economy has made ensuring academic success even more critical.
That competitive environment has fueled the need for parents to connect and control in a new way.
On the other hand allowing children to solve problems rather than doing it for them would certainly take them a long way in their life.
Just after school, motivate your child to take some sort of initiative alone or joining with an organization that will help her to take decisions on her own. May be a charity run or small project to help poor children learn.
Getting involved into such an activity will help them to plan, interact with people, learn to communicate, get their work done through the right means, face challenges and finally evaluate the outcome.
There is so much a parent can do to empower children to help themselves. Parents must keep their distance during the college admissions months.
Another skill that kids need to stand on their own two feet is the ability to handle disputes, which they won't master if mom and dad are always running interference.
Self-confidence is nurtured, too, by bonding with other adults while in high school and college. Parents need to encourage their children to find trusted adult with whom they can have a consultative relationship. By the time they leave the university, they need to have other adults—faculty, coaches, administrators—helping them makes the transition to careers.
One of the top predictors of a good parent-child relationship is the parent's ability to foster independence and autonomy. Allow your children to explore the world and find out who they are. Allow them to make mistakes. It's a good lesson. And one best learned before the stakes grow high.
