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10 damaging parenting habits!- 6-Oct-2022
We all want our children to be successful, confident, cooperative, kind, and assertive. It can be hard to teach our children to handle so many different behaviors.
Here are some ways that WE hinder their growth.
1). Not letting our CHILD make the choice.
If you want your child to feel empowered, confident, and independent allow them to make choices.
When we dont let our children have a choice of things now (while we can still supervise, guide, and help them), it will hinder them from making a choice when it comes to harder issues (when we arent there to help).
2). Not letting them TAKE CHANCES, MAKE MISTAKES.
If you are always there to stop your child from making a mistake, they will rely on you forever. Let them take chances.
3). When We Dont Really Listen
Our children know that we can provide good solutions to their problems, but still, they dont come.
Why? They are afraid of being judged, afraid of getting into trouble. Instead of feeling like we are the perfect people to listen & help them find a solution, they worry about the consequences.
Your child needs to learn to trust you so they can feel comfortable coming to you. The best way to build trust? Listen to your child, without reacting. Just listen.
4). We OVER-compliment.
Yes, it is GREAT to be proud of your kids, but give them the chance to show you their greatness. Compliment them, of course, but let it mean something.
If we are always telling them how great they do, for every tiny thing, our word will start to become something that they NEED, or it will also lose part of its value and it wont mean anything to them. It will become as common as hearing Hi
5). We swoop in to SAVE them constantly.
The problem is that as soon as our children learn that if they fail at something, we will save them.
What happens down the road? In college? With their mortgage? Their marriage? Their job? We cant save them.
Teach them how to deal with things, instead of saving them.
6). We let guilt blind us.
Its ok to let kids feel some disappointment.
The beautiful thing about children is that they are so resilient and they will get over it. In return, children will learn that they cant have everything that they want, just because they want it.
Dont let guilt blind you and dont let materialistic things blind your children.
7). Expecting Perfection.
Dont expect perfection. Dont expect laziness, either.
Teach them to try their best (and make sure that they do!).
Making their bed is a great example. They might make the bed as you would.
Dont re-make it. It will only make them feel like it wasnt worth their effort. Instead, encourage them.
8). We dont SHOW them what to do we tell them.
Lead by example. The best thing that we can do is to SHOW our kids how to behave.
9). We arent MODELING what we want to see
As a parent, we have one job: teach our children.
Teach them to be kind, teach them to be responsible, teach them how to stay safe, teach them what to do in a dangerous situation, and teach them when to come to you.
If they dont see us practicing what we preach, they wont do it, either.
10). We dont encourage them to TRY and fail.
If they want to try something, tell them to go for it! If they think something might be too hard ask them Why not just give it a shot? Whats the worst that can happen?
Dont let them try dangerous situations. But do encourage them to try things that they might be reluctant to try. Let them rather try & fail, than never try at all.
Best wishes !
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