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Handling teen with ADHD!-
ADHD is nothing but Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder!
Do you find these in your teen?
- easily distracted
- never seems to listen
- can't sit still
- disorganized or messy
- acts without thinking
- has emotional outbursts
Even if you know that these behaviors stem from your teen's ADHD, you may feel frustrated, embarrassed, or disrespected when they happen. Parenting a teen with ADHD is challenging. It takes extra patience. Teens with ADHD are becoming more independent. But they still need a parent's guidance, help, and support.
What parents need to do?
Learn more about ADHD. Brush up on what you already know about ADHD. This can help you to be more patient and less frustrated by your teen's behaviors. It helps you remember that teens with ADHD are not 'being difficult' on purpose.
Know how ADHD affects your teen. Think about the biggest difficulties your teen has because of ADHD. Then think about what skills your teen needs to learn that can reduce these problems. For example:
Teens who are hyperactive may need to learn to slow down instead of rush. They may need to learn ways to calm themselves physically or burn off excess energy.
Impulsive teens may need to be taught to interrupt less, wait more patiently, or think before they act in ways that could be risky or careless. They need to be taught to calm their upset emotions.
Teens who have problems with attention may need to build skills for planning, studying, and reducing distraction. They might need skills to help them organize their things, clean up, complete chores or projects, or be on time.
Help your teen understand ADHD. Help teens see that it's their job to manage their attention, energy, actions, and emotions — and that you'll help. Make goals that are clear and realistic. Start by working on one thing.
If your teen lacks organization skills because of ADHD, it doesn't help to yell or say, 'clean it up!' Instead, help her learn how to clean it up. You may have to do it together at first. Work on it patiently together. If possible, find a way to make it fun. Know that things will probably get messy again. Plan to repeat this process frequently. It takes practice to learn a new skill.
Help your teen build social skills. Teens may not realize that ADHD can affect their relationships. If teens interrupt too often, talk too much, doesn’t listen well, or act in ways that seem bossy or intrusive, they will put other people off. Help your teen notice when behaviors may affect friendships. Don't blame, but do say that this can be part of ADHD.
Treatment for ADHD usually includes medicine, therapy, parent coaching, and school support.
Keep your parent–teen relationship positive. Be encouraging. Pay more attention to what your teen is doing well than to problems. Correct your teen in a supportive and calm way. Help teens with ADHD learn how to act or what to do before they do it.
Avoid scolding, blaming, nagging, or lecturing. These will likely cause your teen to tune out what you say. Teens with ADHD are often sensitive to criticism. They may feel upset, angry, or hurt when criticized or punished. These strong emotions can stop them from really hearing the message you're trying to get across.
Help teens develop (and appreciate) their strengths. Teens with ADHD often feel like they're letting others down or they can't do anything right. But people with ADHD have plenty of strengths. Some of their strengths go with ADHD, like quick thinking, creativity, playfulness, or spontaneity. When teens use their strengths — and know a parent sees them — it can boost their self-esteem, resilience, and success.
