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Should children go after parents dream?- 9-Jan-2010
Major portion of a childs brain develops within 3 years.
Incidents and events registered in that tender age lasts for lifetime. Only few a parents are aware of this truth.
It is a very sad that even most of the educated parents dont allow them to venture freely and confine their children to the house. Intentionally or unintentionally, parents are the ones hindering their children from developing in sports or studies. However, only few parents do have the ability to nurture their children talents like studying skills and sports skills.
In the current situation that compels both the parent to go for work, even the parental love is provided on a routine. Right from a small age, when actually they want to do lot things freely on their own the tender mind starts to feel the pressure due to too much threatening like dont touch this, dont pull this. It is important to create an environment to do the right thing, instead of refraining from doing things that they are not supposed to do.
It is not wrong for parents to thing what their children ought to be as they grow up, but it is not right to pressurize them, telling repeatedly to go after their dreams. This will only create an aversion towards the particular thing.
Therefore, it is necessary to provide the right ambience with all facilities. Parents from developed nations consider parenting itself a skill and give much importance to the right approach. Many Indian families have also started to give due importance towards appropriate parenting.
Venkat Ramani, an expert in parenting spoke to Kalvimalar:
Proper parenting starts right from childs birth. Capacity of the young mind is enormous. At youth stage, they need lot of energy and strength. Hence, they must have good and proper health. It is necessary to give children good nutritious food including vegetables and fruits. Games play very crucial role to keep the body and mind refreshed.
Only, parents should understand the mind of children. If not able to understand children, it is very important not to misunderstand them. Instead of pressuring the children, just to earn more wealth, asking them to study the things that you were not able to study once, it will be good if the parents take necessary action to improve their wards interest towards it. If children get interested, they will accomplish more than the expectation of the parents.
For example, if the parents wish their children to become a collector, they should take their children to collectors office and show the amount of respect that a collector gets from various quarters. This will create a spark of interest in the mind of children to become a collector. Then, tell the child about the ways and means of achieving this goal of becoming a collector and the various competitive exams to take up.
If the parents want to their children to become a doctor, they should create an interest showing apparatuses like stethoscope. It is very essential to take the children on short tours, ensure that children are relaxed and dont have any sort of pressure in the mind.
These remedial actions would create an interest in the mind of the child and slowly they would start working towards their goal. A right approach from the side of parents is highly imperative; in the same time parents should not compel children to do what they dont like. Parents should encourage their children understanding the interest, likes and dislikes. After the age of ten, they should guide and encourage children in the right way based on their knowledge and interest, he said.
