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Imperative skills for kids to behave better: Dr. Alvin Ng (Part I)- 28-Sep-2017
Both gets the child the same thing. One is skillful and one is not. Which would you prefer? Teach it.
When children misbehave, it is usually due to the lack of skills. Skills that you and I have but they dont. Skills that their friends and teachers have but they dont.
So in trying to get your children to behave, teach them the skills that theyre lacking while in the long queue to see the doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, occupational therapist, counsellor or speech therapist, because youll pretty much hear the same thing when you get to see them.
The professionals themselves will not have time to teach your children skills but they can guide you. Since professionals are hard to come by, use other resources such as your family, friends, teachers, and your childrens friends who have the skills to teach your children so that they dont have to misbehave anymore.
What skills are these?
Adaptive Behaviour Skills:
Language comprehension skills
Expressive language skills
Written communication skills
Daily Living Skills
Self-care skills
Domestic skills
Community skills
Academic skills
Play skills
Friendship skills
Emotional regulation skills
Fine motor skills
Gross motor skills
The skills above all contribute to functional independence, self-efficacy, self-confidence and self-esteem, making an individual who has adequate collection of skills someone who is well-adjusted and a functional member of the community.
Any basic level of skills missing from the whole set usually results in emotional and behavioural problems.
