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Flowers keen to Bloom- 26-Feb-2009
Adolescence is after childhood stage.
Persons between adult and child stages are neither children nor adults. As a result, they have an identity problem.
All those who experience both emotional and physical changes at this stage are able to feel this identity crisis. They grow tall quickly, childishness in talking and in their action reduces. So far, they were confined to their houses, but now will be eager to try new endeavors outside their houses.
They are in search of a self-identity, anxious to develop new friendship with their age group and are extremely happy, if they happen to find one. They have lot of changes in their new life style.
Frequently, they comb and groom their hair without seeking the help from others. They are interested to apply powder on their faces often and regularly. They tend to be independent, tries to avoid getting help from others to do their daily work.
In brief, they like to be their own personal secretaries. Adolescents are like buds that needs to be handled cautiously. Only, the parents need little counseling to handle the problems that occur to the children of this stage. Parents must be aware of the subtle ways and means to handle the problems of their adolescent children. Parents must recollect, analyze and justify those problems that they had done during their adolescence stage to have a better understaning about the problems of their children.
Instead of talking to them too much, parents must listen to their children carefully. They must teach them both the joys and sorrows of life. Only then, they can cultivate the habit of accepting life's reality. When the childen are around, parents must speak carefully, avoid speaking negative things or acting uncaringly either through their speech or body language. It will develop healthy approach to life. Moreover, the parents must create a congenial atmosphere within the family, where the children also must be allowed to participate in decision-making matters.
It will develop self-confidence in them. It is the duty of the parents to give them freedom. Their involvement in family and social affairs, will increase their sense of responsibility.
Instead of finding fault with them that they are loitering about, the parents must spend time with them when they are at home. Other family members should mix with them freely and enthusiastically to build up a healthy integrated family relationship. Parents should realize that they were also like them at this stage and must not think that just because they are good parents, they are perfect human beings.
These budding flowers expect only two things from their parents, love and affection, and the freedom to act independently in decision-making matters. Let our flowers blossom and may our children flourish.
